On this fine, cold and unusual insomniac night, I sit looking at my phone waiting for the battery to charge because tomorrow might be long and I don't want to lose the convenience that my cell affords me. Tonight is unusual because whenever am insomniac(read most nights) I enjoy the silence that comes with the night, in fact, I find that I crave it. Silence in the dead of the night creates an illusion of aloneness that is hard to find during the day and that is very comforting for my introverted tendencies. Okay, granted, most nights I am reading and therefore meeting new people as it is. Tonight, however, the silence is both deafening and suffocating. So I have put some music on so I can finally breath.
My thoughts wander haphazardly, as if seeking for something but never pausing long enough to explore what it is they are searching. I tell myself that after the day I have had, I should be damn tired, near exhaustion, but my mind contradicts this idea. That's why, in an effort to quiet the cacophony that is my thoughts, I try to put to paper what it is that I think I am feeling. I try so hard to show you my favourite part of me, because that's what us humans do, but I feel like a villain in this story that I have written, and it is safe to say that no one ever wants to be the villain, we want to be good people, we endeavour to be nice but sometimes we fail horribly in our attempts. Truth is, sometimes I am a heartless villain who unknowingly (and sometimes knowingly) hurts the people around me.
Sometimes I am unforgiving and therefore let meaningful relationships die because of things that could easily be forgotten. I pride myself in being very observant, taking note of things my friends do and most importantly listening intently to them during conversations. But when my being observant is not reciprocated and I find myself talking about the same things that I am sure I had already talked about to the same person, I get angry and let the friendship wither all so naturally.
I don't have friends. But I have a myriad of acquaintances. This was rightly pointed out by an acquaintance whom I have known for quite some time now. I was studying for my Communication and Gender paper and I read to her the steps of building a friendship and one of the key steps is mutual sharing of vital information about each other. She said that I am a good listener, and people easily share personal information and not even realise that I have not shared anything personal. She then confessed that she wanted to buy me a present on my birthday, but she was conflicted, she didn't know if I would like whatever it is she bought. And she is not the only one, so many people, some of my siblings included don't know even my favourite food(!) But instead of thinking that maybe am too secretive or mysterious, I felt a surge of anger, because I thought that people don't outrightly tell you what they like, it's your job to find out, by being observant, and I do that job so well. But she sensed my anger and calmly said that I am picky, too picky for that matter.
So I am unforgiving, very picky and mysterious, all traits that don't nurture good friendships. In this story that is my life, I am responsible for these villain traits. I picked these traits for my protagonist, who is me, and for as long as this story has been in existence, these traits have served me well. They have put an electric barrier between myself and other people, thereby protecting my vulnerabilities and in so doing, creating a cocoon that is my safety net without which I wouldn't recognise myself.
The title of this post is from the song You are a Tourist by Death Cab for Cutie.
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